Quote

"... from personal experience that when the people we love make choices, we don't always understand them. But we can go on loving them, just the same. It isn't a matter of comprehension. It's forgiveness."
Jodi Picoult - Vanishing Acts

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

Wrong reasons

If you watch the Hills, you might know LC and how she's always have an opinion of her friends' relationships. The meddler??? My guess is she becomes the meddler because of the producers (it's not entirely unscripted). But if you care about someone, you would meddle... Should you? Or should you just let them learn from their mistakes? But isn't that your job, being the wiser person to guide or swerve them from the wrong path or wrong person.

From relationship-wise, maybe it's S&M. Okay not the kinky leather straps, handcuffs S&M okay... I mean being in a relationship with the wrong person: you keep fighting about the same issues, you keep breaking up, yet somehow you keep ended up being together in the end. Is that fate bringing you back together? Or is it because either one of you who's too scared to be alone?

It frustrates me how people can be so BLIND (this is me being the meddler) in choosing their boyfriend/girlfriend. Yea..Yea... I've learn in social psychology that men usually would date many-many women before settling because they want to spread their sperms (probably something with evolution), while women usually keep themselves for just one special person. Not all men, I know some couples who their wives are their first lovers (aaaah... how sweeettt..). One might ask, is it too wrong to care about someone so much? No, it's not wrong, it's just PLAIN STUPID to stay with a person who cheat on you. By cheating, I do not mean flirting with member of opposite sex (I think flirting is still acceptable. Hahahah!), but when it comes to sleeping with other person, that's unacceptable. Yikes...

Maybe the monogamous era is almost over, have we becoming okay to open relationships?

OK... Enough rambling for today

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

err, i also think that flirting is sooo ok. :D

uji said...

mel, I guess we think alike ;)